Where are you looking....

Believe it or not, strong relationships still exist. Many times I’ve ran across plenty of my boy’s running up saying "Man where are all the real ladies at?" I wish I could reply "man where the hell are you looking." I come across great women all the time. Shit, some of them even ask me the same type of question. "Hey you got a brother?" or "Hey you got any friends?" I really want to reply "woman where the hell are you looking." Nevertheless, the truth is, it’s still possible to find the right one. Trust me. I thought the same thing. At one time I was a so-called player. Not saying that I was ‘pimp of the year’, but I knew that I had a couple of options, and tried to play the game.

As young boys were always taught to be ‘da Man’. Not A man but ‘da man’. Sounds crazy but it’s true. Reminds me of what I learned when I was a young teen. Back then having sex was so important for the young guys. I mean you aren’t even considered cool if you aren’t getting any. Think of the father of a son and daughter. He strictly guards his young princess. On the other hand, if the son decides to get some, papa similes and says "that’s my boy." This crazy contradiction sticks to us like white on rice. So most of the guys from my generation step to relationships with this already in mind. It is what it is.

Now that I just lost my player card for life(LOL). Lets talk about where in the hell are we looking? Let me be real for once. Back in the day when I was clubbing every weekend, I used to run up on all kinds of women. From the ones who just want to party with their friends after a long work week; to the one who sits at the bar and can drink you under the table (my favorite). I used to live for spotting my boys, getting drunk, and grooving with the sexy ladies (Orlando has so many). While doing all of this, the one thing that never came to mind is "damn I bet I can find a good girlfriend in here." Truth be told, that is never in our minds when we hit the club.



So we usually clown the guy who makes a relationship out of women who hits the club three times a week.



So for the ladies out there where are you looking . . . better yet answer this, when and where are you meeting the opposite sex? Think about it. Is it the club, or the mall, or the gas station . . . where?

Are you hitting the clubs with the home girls, looking all good, smelling like heaven. Bumping and grinding up against the guys . . . please tell me what are you thinking at that moment . . . is it "I gotta make him my man." Trust me there is nothing wrong with hooking up with a guy that night and making hot passionate bed-braking magic. Yet most women that I come across are trying to make a relationship of this. Very few pull this off. For instance, my mother and father met at the club and eventually got married. Yet it ended in an ugly divorce.

To find the right people to get associated with in that way, depends on where you are meeting them. The church and mosque are full of strong and insightful people. Hit the next Art Festival when it comes to town, or even the library where the smartest of us are. Never feel intimidated or scared to approach a strong woman or guy. Some of us are so afraid of rejection so we settle for something on a lower level. Not saying that it’s bad to do that, but you must check the character of that person before you make that big jump into a relationship. Please I repeat PLEASE STOP MAKING RELATIONSHIP OUT OF PEOPLE YOUR SIMPLY JUST HAVING SEX WITH!!!

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